Oops I did it again!
It started out just being a discussion on how we should all pull our weight in the household and ended up being a screaming match. How did that happen? I got antsy then they got defensive, then I got exasperated and raised my voice. Then they raised their voice and it got out of control.
How often does this happen with your family, your two- three-four year old, your teenager, your husband, your brother or sister?
Oh, I can’t change them, but God can help me change me.
This Lent may I change the way I speak. The way I use my language or how I use my tongue.
In Scripture good wisdom is found everywhere on this topic. Maybe because it is such a common area that needs working on- a bad habit.
A wise mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is. (Good news)
Kind words are like honey- sweet to the taste and good for your health. (Good News)
The start of an argument is like the first break in a dam, stop it before it goes any further. (Good News)
And my favourite…
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (NIV)
In the NLT translation it says:
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.
Maybe this Lent we could be the “fire extinguishers” in our families. We could choose to count to 10, 20 if we have to, to allow gentle words to come out of our mouths. To allow proper discussions to occur because we are kind and gentle with our words and in our responses.
For there is Life or death in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21
PRAYER: Dear Loving Father, could you send your Holy Spirit to remind us to watch how we speak and what we say. Can you guide us in the best way to “talk” about issues that come up in our families, in our circumstances, with our friends?
May you help us change this bad habit and in 40 days time, may we notice a change in us? A softer heart, less harsh words, an attitude of life-giving in our words and actions. Amen