Lent 2019 – Day 7

By on 12/03/2019

The Power of the Tongue

Tuesday 12th March

Life and death are in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21)

Oops I did it again!

It started out just being a discussion on how we should all pull our weight in the household and ended up being a screaming match. How did that happen? I got antsy then they got defensive, then I got exasperated and raised my voice. Then they raised their voice and it got out of control.

How often does this happen with your family, your two- three-four year old, your teenager, your husband, your brother or sister?

Oh, I can’t change them, but God can help me change me.

This Lent may I change the way I speak. The way I use my language or how I use my tongue.

In Scripture good wisdom is found everywhere on this topic. Maybe because it is such a common area that needs working on- a bad habit.

Proverbs 16:21.
A wise mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is. (Good news)

Proverbs 16:24
Kind words are like honey- sweet to the taste and good for your health. (Good News)

Proverbs 17:14
The start of an argument is like the first break in a dam, stop it before it goes any further. (Good News)

And my favourite…

Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (NIV)

In the NLT translation it says:

A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.

Maybe this Lent we could be the “fire extinguishers” in our families. We could choose to count to 10, 20 if we have to, to allow gentle words to come out of our mouths. To allow proper discussions to occur because we are kind and gentle with our words and in our responses.

For there is Life or death in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21

PRAYER: Dear Loving Father, could you send your Holy Spirit to remind us to watch how we speak and what we say. Can you guide us in the best way to “talk” about issues that come up in our families, in our circumstances, with our friends?

May you help us change this bad habit and in 40 days time, may we notice a change in us? A softer heart, less harsh words, an attitude of life-giving in our words and actions. Amen

Written by
Rosemary Downes: Co-founder of The Catholic Guy Ministry and founder of the Heart Ministry for Women.


29 comments on “Lent 2019 – Day 7

  1. Wise words. Also beatitudes Blessed are the peacemakers. We often find ourselves in that role, and it isn’t easy.
    Please help us Lord

  2. Reminds me of a prayer I heard: Lord, help me to keep my words sweet today, because I may have to eat them.

  3. Thanks. Just what God wanted me to hear. God can change me and, by faith, i can say I’m becoming more like Jesus

  4. Thank you Father God for keeping my loving spouse El & I joined as one being inseparable on all levels,I pray Father God that we don’t hold animosity towards one another,I pray we are more forgiving and understanding to each other,I pray we verbally communicate more and spend more quality time together physically on every level & I pray my loving spouse El goes to church with me.This is my prayer and I’m believing for a right now answered yes.Thank you Father God.In Jesus name.Amen Amen

  5. Anger can erupt, as sudden as a dormant volcano… Once ‘active,’ it becomes difficult to control, becomes more explosive, louder and slower to halt….. Sadly the destruction can be hard to retract, repair or accept….. If we better prepare in not fueling the spark, ….we may be better in slowing / surviving the aftermath.

  6. Thank you Rosemary – your message really “Hit Home” with me today – more often than not at home, a discussion turns into an argument and I need to be the one to prevent the “Fire”. Father forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us!! AMEN

  7. Thank you Rosemary – I think everyone can relate to this situation in our everyday lives – and I love the scripture references to support us – makes me want to read more of Proverbs to see what other everyday life inspiration I might find!

  8. Awesome reflection!! Which one of us cannot relate? Thank you Lord for these words and quotes of wisdom. May we be your instruments of peace and harmony, particularly in our homes.

  9. So true, yet so easy to forget in the heat of the moment. Thanks for the reminder and the prayer, Rosemary.

  10. Lord, it is hard to suppress anger and hurt feelings, so help me to change my thoughts and my attitudes that trigger my feelings of anger in the first place.

  11. I think we must always speak to our family & not at our family.
    Always Listen to people and respect them.

  12. “May the Words of my mouth and meditations of my heart be always acceptable to You!”. Help us, Holy Spirit to honor You in all things, and bring a life that others see You at work in US. Thanks you Rosemary and Bruce for bringing unity and oneness that puts a smile on Jesus’ face!

  13. Thank-you Rosemary. What a great lesson to study and live by. Loved your prayer at the end and will cherish it to say each and every day. Blessings to you and Bruce and I pray each day for your spirit filled ministry.

  14. My ex and I get along better than ever, now. We were married for twenty years divorced six. He’s the type that says he’s right until proven wrong😡. So for the sake of the kids, I tell him I’m big joing to say anything because we’ll get into an argument.

  15. Thank you Rosemary for today’s devotional. I pray for His grace to seriously help me in this area; I am in desperate need of help to enable me give up hot temperament that causes me to talk and respond harshly to people most of the time.
    May God help me in Jesus’ name. Amen and amen!

  16. Thank you so much for the thought provoking articles. It helps to take stock and have some pegs to go by.
    May God bless you all and help you in your work.

  17. Thank you…sometimes that can be difficult when you are a career for the one you love…Not ‘biting back’ is going to be my Lenten focus,

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